Day 16 of the National Blog Post Month challenge where I’m writing a blog post every day along the theme of 30 Steps to Happiness and Contentment.
Have you ever been going about your daily life, feeling OK, then someone says to you 'Oh you look so tired, are you OK?' 'Yes I'm fine', 'Are you sure, you don't look good, I think you must be over doing it.' Now I know these words are said out of concern, but they are likely to make you come away feeling down, depressed and sorry for yourself.
Or how about when you tell someone about a project your
thinking of doing and they say 'I don't know, what about this, what
about that, what if the sky falls in, what if the world ends, what if,
what if...'. Some peoples cup is always half empty. They tend to look at and focus on the negatives, point out what can go wrong. Yes, you need to consider all aspects
of a situation, but don't dwell on the negatives disproportionately. If
you do, then you'll never take a risk and you know what they say - nothing ventured, nothing
Compare this to a more positive interaction. You're going about your
daily life, feeling OK then someone says something like 'You look
really well. Have you lost weight? You hair looks nice ' etc. Even if
you weren't feeling that great at the time, positive comments like this
give you an immediate boost. You automatically smile, stand up
straighter and it makes you feel good about yourself.
People with a positive outlook can be inspiring and encouraging.
Tell a positive person your ideas and they'll suggest ways of achieving
them or think of other applications and encourage you to go for it!
Negative people have a way of rubbing their negativity off on you. It's catching so steer clear. They can be draining and depressing. I know you can't always choose who you work with/family etc, but just be aware and try to spend much of your time with people with a more positive outlook on life. How can you be happy and contented if your surrounded by negatively?
However don't confuse negativity with depression or need. If a friend or family member is having a tough time, the last thing they need is for you to distance yourself from them. No, I'm talking about the moaners in life. I'm sure you can think of some. The ones that never have a positive thing to say about anything and yet probably have much to be thankful for. It often seems the real sufferers, people who cope with all sorts of difficulties on a daily basis and who have every right to moan, don't!
So look out for those negative people and try to avoid them if possible. If you can't, at least let their negative comments wash off you. If you make an effort to surround yourself with positive people you can let their positive energy rub off on you instead.
You may be interested to read the other posts in this series:
Step 30 - The Key to Happiness and Contentment
Step 29 -You are the master of your own destiny
Step 28 - Don't give up on a good relationship
Step 27 - Don't Judge , Live and let live
Step 26 - Don't Worry, by happy
Step 25 - Never give up
Step 24 - Get by with a little help from your friends
Step 23 - Go with the Flow
Step 22 - Enjoy the moment
Step 21 - Love what you do
Step 20 - Forgive and Forget
Step 19 - Unconditional giving
Step 18 - Smile and the world smiles with you
Step 17 - Work to live, don't live to work
Step 16 - Surround yourself with Positive People
Step 15 - Always look on the bright side of life
Step 14 - Where there's a will there's a way
Step 13 - Silence is Golden
Step 12 - Feed your Soul
Step 11 - Follow your Dreams
Step 10 - Use your time wisely
Step 9 - Don't be too hard on yourself
Step 8 - Consider what you value most
Step 7 - Find time for Yourself
Step 6 - Make time for Family and Friends
Step 5 - Don't take yourself too Seriously
Step 4 - Feel the Fear and do it Anyway
Step 3 - Love what you Hate
Step 2 - There's no such word as CAN''T
Step 1 - Find the Best in Every Day